Civility – also known as speaking to and treating others respectfully, whether or not you agree with them. Civility is not about politics. It’s about respect and how we treat each other as human beings, whether in Parliament, at work, in e-mail, or at home at all times and especially when we disagree. If there were more civility in homes, between spouses, partners, parents and children, we would have a much better world. Healthy, respectful, thoughtful disagreement makes often makes our decisions better. We can consider things we may not have thought of. We can address the concerns of more people. But disagreement should be done with the characteristics stated
“Civility is about more than merely being polite, although being polite
is an excellent start. Civility fosters a deep self-awareness, even as
it is characterized by true respect for others. Civility requires the
extremely hard work of staying present even with those with whom we
have deep-rooted and perhaps fierce disagreements. It is about
constantly being open to hear, to learn, to teach and to change. It
seeks common ground as a beginning point for dialogue when differences
occur, while at the same time recognizes that differences are
enriching. It is patience, grace, and strength of character.
“Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs and beliefs
without degrading someone else’s in the process.”
…and it begins with us.
What kind of human beings do we want to be?
What kind of relational climate do we want to create?
What do we want to teach and model for our children?
Do we want rude, shouting, disrespectful – like The Simpsons? I know we can do better!!!
What kind of world are YOU creating by YOUR own words, tone, and behavior?